Natasha Bussey

"The oak fought the wind and was broken, the willow bent when it must and survived." —Robert Jordan A Therapist's Reflection: When the Ground Shifts Beneath You I'm writing this during a time when I'm watching more clients than ever navigate sudden, involuntary change. Layoffs. Health diagnoses. Relationship endings. Financial crises. The kind of changes nobody chose, nobody wanted, and nobody feels prepared for. And here's what I'm noticing: the people who collapse aren't the ones who face...

Compulsive control isn't about power—it's your nervous system's strategy to avoid getting hurt again. Research shows people higher in anxiety have stronger illusion-of-control responses, creating a brutal loop: the need to control generates the anxiety that justifies more control. Meanwhile, you're exhausting yourself trying to manage what was never yours to hold.

"A therapist's confession: My smartest clients are terrified of getting better. They'll articulate pain brilliantly, then 'forget' simple healing exercises. Why? Their pain became home. Discover the neuroscience behind why you cling to suffering, the six hidden reasons you can't let go, and the liberation protocol to finally move out of emotional hell."