Natasha Bussey

Compulsive control isn't about power—it's your nervous system's strategy to avoid getting hurt again. Research shows people higher in anxiety have stronger illusion-of-control responses, creating a brutal loop: the need to control generates the anxiety that justifies more control. Meanwhile, you're exhausting yourself trying to manage what was never yours to hold.

"A therapist's confession: My smartest clients are terrified of getting better. They'll articulate pain brilliantly, then 'forget' simple healing exercises. Why? Their pain became home. Discover the neuroscience behind why you cling to suffering, the six hidden reasons you can't let go, and the liberation protocol to finally move out of emotional hell."

We think life happens to us, but most of what we experience is filtered through what we already believe. Confirmation bias makes us see proof of our fears and miss evidence of our worth. Change your beliefs, and your brain starts collecting new proof. You’re not just living your story—you’re writing it.